That's the vibe I get also, and let me tell ya, I've been there, it ain't pretty, and it doesn't work.
If I might Jack, I think our stories are somewhat similar in the following way. We both came to the point that we were done. I mean DONE.
In Jack's case, his wife came back to him to try and work things out, he gave her one chance, she took it, and things worked out.
In my case, my XW sent out signals that maybe, just maybe she regretted her decision. And this took quite some time. And I had moved on. And I'm better for it.
I guess my point is that nothing changed in our situations until we moved on with our lives. You can't change someone else, you can only change you. Not to be corny, but it's like the saying that if you love something let it go. If it comes back, it's your's forever. (?) If it doesn't, it was never your's in the first place.
Everybody hurts. It's part of life. Don't miss the good stuff.
