I know you're tired and hurting a lot. It's a draining experience. I don't know if this would work in your H's case or not, my personal opinion would be probably not, but you don't seem to have much left to lose...is to see if he would investigate the MEVAC site. It's Men Ending Verbal Abuse and Control. You've put up with some fairly heinous verbal abuse. Anyway, that site is for reforming abusers.
To be honest, your H has so many of the specific narcissistic traits I don't know if would help. I hate to offer any kind of false hope,as you know. But maybe he would consider it. Maybe OTHER MEN could get through to him.
Meanwhile...you are cared about here. I'm sorry someone upset you. More hugs.
