I really want to remind her of the $1000's she has spent in the bars, restaurants, movies, on day trips, on dating, and on romantic getaways with her ex-gf....funny how when she was spending money on that stuff she had little problem doing it.
This is exactly what I think you should do. She's blaming you for problems that she has helped create. Seems to me like she needs to have a dose of reality.
