Glad to see that your sitch is improving! I have to echo all of the sentiments above. You have a gift and the desire to share that with people who need it. Keep up the good work!
His wife has been divorced once before, and she is impressed with how well we seem to be doing at this point. She is the one counseling me to have patience, and they are both willing to let me yammer on when I need it. (To be honest, as much grief as I've been giving britt54 about not being to let go? There are times when I'm almost as bad.)
She and my wife were really good friends for a while, and she has been able to provide me with some insight on where my wife is coming from.
I have literally told both of them that they don't know how much their being there means to me, and that if we can work this out I will owe them a debt I can never repay. But they're cool with that.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Grief...haha. That's a nice way to put it..hehe. I value your opinion and your advice. I'm just kidding. I know I'm a hard case. But after my conversation with H today. I feel like letting go is my next step. Downhill from last week that's for sure.
But you on the other had are doing amazing and you deserve it. I may not know you but the if the person you are on here reflects any type of character you are in life then that is why you are where you are today and why you're W is where she is at. She has realized what she has and doesn't want to lose it. Good luck.
M: 31 H: 29 Married: 6 yrs Children : 7yr old, 5yr old, 2yr old
Separated: Sept. '09 Moved Back In for wrong reasons: Nov. 30, 09 Recomitted to our Marriage: Jan. 25, 10 Threatening to leave again: July,14
Grief...haha. That's a nice way to put it..hehe. I value your opinion and your advice. I'm just kidding. I know I'm a hard case. But after my conversation with H today. I feel like letting go is my next step. Downhill from last week that's for sure.
Believe me... once you find the courage to step off of that rollercoaster, you'll wonder why you didn't before.
Originally Posted By: britt54
But you on the other had are doing amazing and you deserve it. I may not know you but the if the person you are on here reflects any type of character you are in life then that is why you are where you are today and why you're W is where she is at. She has realized what she has and doesn't want to lose it. Good luck.
Those are incredibly nice things to say.
I'd like to think that my wife is responding to the "new me"; I know she told a (mutual) friend that she has been less frustrated with me of late.
Only time will tell if that translates into a desire to work things out. She has said that she wants to, but she may not be ready to take that step yet; I know she's pulled back a couple of times recently.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Last night around midnight, my wife comes into my room and asks if she can get into bed with me. She says that it's only for tonight.
I say yes, of course...
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
I just don't understand why she has to fore warn you that "its only for tonight" Take it as it is! Its an awesome step so just run with it. I understand she's probably trying not to lead you on or give you false hope, but really?
Good for you anyways, small baby steps...
M: 31 H: 29 Married: 6 yrs Children : 7yr old, 5yr old, 2yr old
Separated: Sept. '09 Moved Back In for wrong reasons: Nov. 30, 09 Recomitted to our Marriage: Jan. 25, 10 Threatening to leave again: July,14
I just don't understand why she has to fore warn you that "its only for tonight" Take it as it is!
Because the last time we talked about it, she said that she wasn't planning to come back to the same bed until she felt comfortable with the idea of being intimate with me again.
Originally Posted By: britt54
Its an awesome step so just run with it. I understand she's probably trying not to lead you on or give you false hope, but really?
Good for you anyways, small baby steps...
Believe me, I'm not making a big deal about it; haven't really brought it up at all.
We'll see what happens tonight.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Kudos to you on handling this new baby step. Just don't be surprised if W starts to question her own actions and backs away for awhile.
I'm kinda expecting it. It's that "have no expectations" thing.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
