So there are no affairs going on? He kinda wants to work on this?
Trust- you will regain that by consistently and openly sharing with him how you are handling money now. I would show him your monthly cash flow and then ask him about what other goals should you be working on - retirement, college, emergency fund etc
What are his LLs? Love him by showing him, love with no expectations in return. Surprise him.
What was your courtship like? Is there anything there you can try to repeat?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.