I'd love to tell you! In fact that's the closest I've gotten to letting out my identity. It would not be a pretty sight if H ever found out I was talking about us here. Although everything I have said has been absolutely the truth.
I always smiled when I read your "dry heat".
Let's see... It takes me about 4 hours to get to my D house in Gilbert. That probably doesn't help you any though.
In fact that's the closest I've gotten to letting out my identity. It would not be a pretty sight if H ever found out I was talking about us here. Although everything I have said has been absolutely the truth.
This is slightly off-topic, but this is also one of the reasons the forum mods get antsy about people posting personal contact info. I haven't seen it happen, but apparently good people have been banned from these forums for posting email addresses, phone numbers, etc.
Even though we are all in the same boat in trying to save our marriages, there's a lot of risk in letting hurt, lonely people meet each other in person; we could easily end up being the ones in an EA or PA.
And that doesn't include the potential for being stalked or harassed. So just be careful.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
And I have to say that I disagree with the policy. You used to be able to put your email in your profile. Something happened, I think, and that capability was removed. I certainly hope it isn't because the mods think it's up to them who we should meet or not meet!
There are a lot of people here who have met off the boards, virtually or in real life. The interesting irony at this point is that there is a DB fan group on Facebook, sponsored by our hosts. If you join that, there's a prety good chance that you will recognize some names, and there you go. My point is that the "rules" here are pretty stupid. I have a feeling they were thought up by someone who thinks they are decreasing potential liability. Maybe they are, but it's not very effective.
And I have to say that I disagree with the policy.
For me, it's not whether or not I agree with the policy. If I don't abide by the terms of service for the boards, I can get kicked off.
This is a private site and they can choose to enforce whatever rules they want.
Originally Posted By: Virtually_Handsome
You used to be able to put your email in your profile. Something happened, I think, and that capability was removed. I certainly hope it isn't because the mods think it's up to them who we should meet or not meet!
Well, here is the relevant section from the Board Policies sticky post:
Originally Posted By: Virginia
This is a public forum. Exchanging private contact information with other users is not allowed. Our purpose in making this messageboard available to you is to offer you a place to publicly give and receive DivorceBusting help, and to support one another in saving your marriages and keeping your families together. It was never our intention to provide a means of privately connecting with others via the internet. There are many other sites where that is encouraged. This is not one of them. We are here to help and support you via this public forum.
We welcome you and appreciate your cooperation in honoring these policies.
So again, you can choose to provide personal info at your own risk -- both of being removed from these forums, and the risk of letting near-complete strangers have your contact info. There are people who read these boards that never or rarely comment: you don't know who will pick this stuff up, regardless of who it is intended for.
I'm sure if you put effort into it, you can figure out who I am. But that's not the same thing as posting my personal phone number to a public board about divorce, which I have seen at least one person do on here!
Originally Posted By: Virtually_Handsome
There are a lot of people here who have met off the boards, virtually or in real life. The interesting irony at this point is that there is a DB fan group on Facebook, sponsored by our hosts. If you join that, there's a prety good chance that you will recognize some names, and there you go.
You won't recognize me because my name isn't really Trent; nowhere near that, actually. When I first signed up for the boards, I tried to use my first initial and last name as my screen name, but was rejected for using personal info. I took that as a reasonable warning and picked my new name accordingly.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Mmmm... I'm wondering now if I should go back and change my username
MJ
Well, now that I know that, expect a postcard from me in the mail tomorrow...
I think in my case, it was my first initial and last name that caused the mods to reject it.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
