I have to agree that he is trying as well. This will take time for him, but you don't have to sit idly and wait.
You need to continue working for what you need in all of this so you don't lose yourself in the process.
As Kerry stated, time is your healer, but you'll need to let time work for you...which is very difficult.
As for sex, I recommend being more "playful" and teasing him a bit. Work on getting his anticipation up. Show him you are sexy and interested in sex, but make him work a bit for it. Play and have fun.
When was the last time you played and had some fun w/him?
Also, if you are giving this a shot, I'd consider dropping the stbx in favor of just H for now as well. It may help psychologically.
