OK, Update. I have FINALLY sent in my L paperwork, ughh! Wed. I cried all through the process of finishing it. Then something happened yesterday - I went into business mode, finished it & sent it off w an updating email to L. I told her H wanted to meet but seeing him upsets me. She replied that there was no reason not to meet to discuss what he has in mind on division of property, and was concerned that our finances are still together. And she & I should meet after I talk to H.
I know, it hit me this a.m. I don't even know where he's living (not exactly - pretty good idea who he's living with) yet he has access to all the $ I have in the world! I know that I didn't want to contact him as he was gone dark but I need to handle this now. Karen warned me mos. ago.
So, I am agreeing to meet to remedy this at our meeting, tomorrow. Then, anything else he wants to talk about will be through the Ls. I have my own cr. card, he needs to get 1 too. And stop putting anything on the joint one. It's at an all time high. Ugghhh! Also opening up a checking acct. in my name today.
Saw my IC yesterday, & what she said is true for me: I have to do this in my own time. This ordeal has really done a number on my belief in myself, & one of my goals is to right that. To be the best I can be. That means sticking up for myself. I am so grateful for my DB coach & all the advice on this board, whether directed at me or not. It is such a great support. Thanks to every one of you, & wish a happy weekend! LFA
