Another waw/mlc and I need support

[cyclone]

It's been an up and down couple of weeks. I've been trying really hard to detach in a loving way and thought I've been successful. The past few days I've had a lot of self doubt but I've made it through them.

I've been taking the approach of giving W the space she needs to figure things out. This morning she woke me early to have a R discussion. It sure sounds like she is done. She says she has tried for years to make things work and just doesn't see that it can. I've heard much of this before but she sounds like she is not confused at all about this. Is this part of the process? She said that she thought the first few weeks (before I started reading DR and this and other sites) were good and things could be different but lately she doesn't have any connection. I told her I understand but I was trying to give her the space that she was asking for. The first few weeks I was unknowingly pursuing.

I got the sense that she wanted to let me know that there is someone else but she never went there. I do suspect that she is involved in an EA. I told her that I wanted to try to make things work between us and that we've never really tried to work on us together. It seems to me that the only reason one wouldn't want to try to work things out is if there is someone else. See still denies it.

Is she a WAW or MLC? I was so sure that it was MLC, now I just don't know.

I'm taking the kids to Disneyland this weekend, so we'll have fun together. She still thinks that the kids can make it through a D without any ill effects as long as we convince them that they will be OK. I don't believe that. I am staying strong for my kids, even though she is accusing me of filling their heads with hatred for her. I am not.

I guess I'll see if this is another idle threat or if she will follow through this time. As you all have mentioned, it will get worse before it gets better. She may destroy all she has in that process. I am not in control here.

I am finding it difficult to find the strength to continue through this.