Augtan, if you click on the poster's name in red on the left and go down to "view posts" you can read all their old posts. Or do a search (toolbar on top).
BND -It really does help so much to have oldtimers post, even ones whose marriages weren't restored. To see that even they are happy and able to take life as it comes is an encouragement. We all WILL make it through one way or another.
YR - I too have been going with my gut a lot and have been "right." My H used to joke with me about not believing in "women's intuition" but it so often works for me! I am trying so hard daily to give it over to God and trust His timing and purpose and honestly the days I am able to do that I am way happier and more content. Really, that is what it is all about and I can't fix my H. The realization of that has actually given me a huge sense of release.
