I asked her not to contact the EA in front of me and she agreed - another boundary set.
It was a conversation full of straight talking. It felt genuine. It felt like she was close to coming home, but she did say that she did not want to come home yet and that it still stings.
The boundary should be she doesn't contact the OM ever. You are still too wishy-washy. She wants to connect with you, how many times did she just tell you that????? So you gave her permission to connect with the OM, she doesn't see you as being man enought to make her feel secure in your marriage. She wants you and you want to split time with her. You hold the key to opening this up. You can handle it.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
