You know that is a good point Puppy. Cuz in the first months after the bomb when I did all the wrong things... pursuing, begging, etc. I also did a TON of apologizing about all the things he was bringing up that I had apparently done wrong all these years that I didn't know about. Not that I got any of that back.... If something genuine comes out in a MC session that I need to take responsibility for and own, I will. Otherwise, you are right. Current issues need to be the focus.
I do think, though, that the guilt buttons he will try to push are about current every day stuff. Like the other day he was moaning about how tired he was. In the past I would have given him sympathy, etc. This time I said "I'm sure you are with all the late nights you choose. I don't know how anyone could function like that." He didn't say much.... lol.
Don't know what time he came home last night and, surprisingly, actually don't care today. I fell into a deep sleep (for once) around 11:30 and didn't hear him come in. Again... was in his spot in the driveway, lights out, door locked. Noticed this a.m. he left his door open even wider....lol
