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[iwantittowork]

So, a little bit of the crazy seems to be coming from STBXW, and I need some advice. Yesterday, I get an email from her accusing me of 'cyberstalking' her or something. I am going to paste the entire email here, as I have two things I am looking for advice on.

where you on this computer today? everything was closed and ss17 is out of town since yesterday morning, no one else uses this screen for any reason? d8's piano lessons are $66. this month.

1) I am flattered that she thinks I need to cyberstalk her, or even want to know what she is doing. I don't. I don't want to have any idea what she is doing. I am focused on myself.

I am an IT guy buy trade, so I can see how she would think I have access to her computer, however, when I left, I made sure no-one had access but someone physically in front of the machine, and I now live an hour away. I specifically set it up this way so this would not happen, nor would I even be tempted to try and find out what she is doing..

I have two choices, reply to this, or not. I want to also enforce the boundary that I am not, nor would I be doing that kind of thing to her, by stating something along the line:

"stbx, I will not reply in the future to these kinds of accusations, but in this case to ensure that you understand where I am currently with our situation. I specifically setup you computer so no one has access unless your physically sitting in front of it. I do not want, nor care, to know what you are doing with yourself at this time."

Too much? Should I not reply at all?

2) I had been expecting the next one for some time now, and it saddens me to know that it was coming and she does this still.

d8's piano lessons are $66. this month.

I have been providing support checks to her since I left in a very large weekly payment. The above statement is a very subtle way for my STBXW to try and manipulate me to get more of what she wants/control of finances and using d8 to do so. She has been doing this type of thing for a couple of months now.

My stand is: "I understand that d8's piano lessons are monthly, and you will pay for them from the weekly support checks I am providing already for d8's well being."

Too curt? Should I change anything up?

I am trying to put a stop to these types of things, so need some of your advice on how to do so.