Can I save my marriage?

[TrentC]

Its pretty sad when you have such young children, 3 and 1 and don't want to be there full time and are willing to break up a family that young and new. Disgusting.

Here's another reason you need to detach: If you have an opportunity to reconcile, you have to be able to forgive him for his behavior. Obsessing over every slight and getting frustrated trying to read his mind will be obstacles to achieving this.

Forgiveness does not mean minimizing what he has done. But it does mean letting go of the opportunity to "balance the scales".