One thing that has helped me that my mentor couple told me (they went through a separation, H left when they had two kids. I am not sure why he left or if there was an OW, but now they are thriving, have 4 awesome kids, and are teaching the marriage class at their church) is that you have to stop expecting things from H. Stop thinking...He usually calls today or he usually comes over today because that just hurts more when he doesn't. This totally goes along with LRT and GAL. We have to just live our life and if we have plans and H calls, it is too bad. He could come along if he wants, if that is possible, but if not then will have to make other arrangements. We cannot live our lives waiting for H to call and ask to do something. I am good with the not expecting things when it comes to H and myself, but I am working on the not expecting things from H for S.
I hope this helps you.
Me29 S3 H left 4/1/09 I file 8/2/10 Divorce final 5/17/11 1st http://www.tinyurl.com/25lhu52 2nd http://www.tinyurl.com/2c35ueg 3rd http://www.tinyurl.com/322yk89
