Can I save my marriage?

[TrentC]

Trent is right. Sooner or later he isn't going to listen to me anymore...

It just gets really frustrating to read the same things over and over again. Yes, he is being thoughtless and selfish. Yes, he is missing significant events in his kids' lives. Yes, he is sending you mixed signals.

It is going to be a while before that changes. If ever.

I just dont think I'm strong enough for this.

I think you are. As robx said, you have made amazing progress since this began -- many people here would kill to be in your position.

You just can't let impatience ruin it for you. That should be your biggest 180 -- learn to be patient and take each day as it is.