YES, congratulate him!! I would not stop with just that. I would expel more....like....."you worked so hard, I am happy for you" or "I am glad you told me, I know you were nervous about passing, I knew you would pass the exam the whole time".
I would do this......YES, I would.
I am not sure by treating our H's with short attitude and using only brief comments is the answer.
For me, (guys....hit me hard if you want) IF I treat H better (which I have been doing) I am more likely to change his emotions and thoughts about the relationship. It doesn't mean that we have to stop DB, GAL, DETACH. When they reach out to us they do it because they WANT to. So why not stroke their ego when given the opportunity. Afterall it's how the OW got him away from us in the first place.
Guys, I would be very interested to hear just exactly how you would want to be treated by us if you were our H's. Keep in mind....."as if" you are in our sitches at this point in time.....you no longer hate our guts, enjoy our company, enjoy intellectual or light-hearted conversations with us (the communication level is frequent now), are turned on just be looking at us, AND.... YOU SEEK US OUT.....for whatevah!!!! (My H invited me for lunch yesterday and I went.....)
These are very confusing situations.
Obviously men and women have different ideas in handling relationships.
Cas, I love the turn your thread has taken. I am wondering if success can be achieved by mixing up the two methods.
Guys, chime in now........
(((((Cas)))))
Sanderika
ME48/H48MLC T 33y M 28y S16 OW 8/7/05 Bomb 8/16/05 Sep 9/05 H f'd D 10/3/08 D pp'd 1/20/09,7/24/09,12/4/09 D dismissed 2/5/10 H served me D papers again 9/4/10 D dismissed 9/26/11
