Thanks Jeff, really appreciate your thoughts.

When you put it like that it makes sense. He had said previously last November was when he decided to leave although he waited until March to Bomb due to xmas and kids birthdays.

I just got off the phone from him calling me. He is coming to "put this to bed once and for all". He wants to sort out all the "arrangements", custody, assets, over the kitchen table so we can then work out what to take to lawyers. He sounded very raw and also angry (he hates conflict, but should settle down after talking for a bit). We have had these discussions before, so I am not sure how much more there is to add.

I can't handle the thought of being away from my little toddlers, its so hard.