I just have to be on my toes to not get sucked in, cuz I know he'll try....
Oh, you can COUNT on it.
Try to think now, ahead of time, how you want to respond, so that you'll do so effectively. Us Hs, are, after all, pretty damned simple, predictable creatures, if you just stopped and thought about it.
Puppy
OK Puppy so I've been thinking more about this... I know H will try to push my guilt buttons. He will try to make me feel sorry for him in some way and that I am somehow responsible (at least in part) for whatever it is he is feeling...
I have been thinking lots about what I have enabled over the years, and it is not a pretty sight. Somehow didn't see it at the time though.
So, the question now is how to prevent that?
Here is the new and improved "Operation Transformation":
1. Always have the game face on 2. Never let the guard down 3. Lots of positive self-talk... about how fabulous I am... blah, blah, blah 4. If "old" feelings of guilt, or "feeling sorry" for H start to pop up, end the conversation or leave the room. Move on. 5. Reminding myself H is a big boy, responsible for his own feelings and choices 6. Take care of myself and the kids 7. GAL!
Also - time to look at myself and why I have allowed this. Starting IC next week and plan to explore that.
Operation Transformation underway... will keep you updated!
Somehow didn't see it at the time though. 
