Still getting nowhere fast....

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Rob... I have been away for a bit so I am just now getting back on here to answer your questions. So here goes nothing....

If you are entitled to be who you are, is your husband entitled to be who he is or does he have to feel bad for having sexual preferences? He can be who he wants to be but that does not mean that I have to become a slut to make him happy. I have been trying to meet him in the middle as best that I can yet he still wants more.


Would you rather he pursue these sexual preferences with another partner? If you have read my entire thread you would have known that he has already tried to persue his sexual fantasies with other women. He had a sex texting partner, profiles on sex web sites, and tried to sleep with my sister. I don't think you know what you are asking in that question.

If you read what you posted, you are afraid that if you fulfill this fantasy with him, he is going to ask for more from you. Do you want him to pursue sexual pleasure with you?
Is that a bad thing?
Persuing his sexual pleasure is not a bad thing, however, it is a bad thing when that is the only reason he makes me feel like I am kept around in this M. Is is so wrong for a person to want to be wanted for more than a frigging hole between her legs?

Are his sexual fantasies a bad thing? No I don't think it is. But in the past I have fulfilled them and then the next one is there to take its place. And they continue to get more elaborate. Just cuz I tell on here a couple of them don't mean that I tell them all. How about the one where he wants to have me suck him off while he is watching two girls get it on. Does that sound like a good fantasy to any wife on here?

Do you feel inadequate because he is asking you to do these things? No I don't. I can make it a very good night and have him begging for more in 5 minutes. I think that since he is still M to me and still wants me that much, then I must be doing something right.

Should he just accept you as you are? You make it sound as if I am suppose to accept him the way that he is, so why can't he accept me for me?

If that is the case, consider who he is, if he is being honest with his sexual tastes with you, is that a bad thing? Is him being honest with you sexually with what turns him on a bad thing? Can he be accepted by you as he is which means accepting his sexual preferences? He has always been honest with me in this department. No it is not bad thing that he tells me. What scares me is the fact that I am never going to live up to his expectations and that he will continue to cheat on me and lie to me and use me and be verbally abusive to me.

Do you feel inadequate because he has these preferences? Just a bit I do. He is letting me know that I am not good enought for him. That if I don't fulfill hs fantasies then he will look elsewhere. Why can't I be good enough for him with out having to compromise my integrity, my self esteem, or who I trully am. I am not a slut, nor will I act like one just to please my H.

Rob...I truely don't understand what the hell you are doing on my thread. I don't think you have any idea what I have been dealing with for many years. how this feels to be treated this way and not be able to get out because you keep hopin for the better to along after the worse is over. You have hurt me deeply by asking such questions. You act just like my H does when he questions me about why I won't take it in the butt, or sallow, or let another woman join us. I am NOT a slut nor will I be treated like that by my H or by you. I am very hurt and angery at you Rob for the way that you have come across.

I would like to hear what you have to say about my answers and and how you have made me feel. then after that, maybe you should read the book, Men are from Mars and Woman are from Venus. If your on here to help people, then don't come across as bad as my H has been treating already been treating me!!![/color]