Can I save my marriage?

[TrentC]

Well, he called me on my way out the door to get the vaccinations. But it had nothing to do with them. He knew my sis was over and he is a policeman and stopped a young woman this afternoon that "name-dropped" saying she knew my sis. So he called to see if she knew this woman at all. Well of course it was kind of a petty reason to call. Had I called him for this type of reason he would have lost it on me. He gets annoyed by those little calls that can be discussed at a later time. I wish he wouldn't have called from "private name" cause I didn't know who it was so I answered, but wish I hadn't.

So why didn't you come up with a reason to hang up? Kids didn't need a bath?

Again, he wanted to talk to me, and "voila!" I'm a little upset tonight as the boys had their shots and he hasn't even texted or called to ask how they did. Since my kids have been born I have never taken them for vaccinations alone. I hate needles and my H ALWAYS comes with to help me. Today is the first time I have ever taken them alone and he doesn't even care.

Wait, wait... your husband acted selfish and like a crappy father? When did this start?

Its frustrating how his parenthood went out the window since this happened. He used to be such a good father. Same thing happened tues. night when he took S3 to a hockey game and left in the second period because "supposedly" S3 was tired, but I later found out he went out. Who spends the night with their children on "their" night to be with them and then cuts in short to go out.

OK, reading the same thing every day is tiring for me; I can't imagine what it must be like to write it.

YOU

NEED

TO

DETACH!!

You're really surprised that he didn't call or text you about the kids' shots? You're really surprised that he's not the SUPER AWESOME DAD he used to be (up to the point where he walked out on you and the kids)?

You need to accept the new reality of your husband's behavior. In case you haven't noticed, he is being selfish and irresponsible. Period. Therefore, he is going to do things that will drive you crazy because "he just doesn't act that way".

I know this is hard; but you are going to drive yourself -- and everyone around you -- crazy unless you can get over being upset by every stupid, childish thing he does.