Found out about A several months ago. Immediately separated after it happened, but spouse lives nearby. Tried to reconcile but WS refused to maintain NC. Spouse has requested D on two occasions but changed mind within a few days. After last D request, decided to do a 180 with no contact. This led to her coming over one night asking for R after discovering that I would be moving away for a new job. This was after I severed contact between the two. She is currently on the fence about reconciling. I have rarely contacted spouse recently. I leave in a few weeks. I get an e-mail or text from her many days about our house, pet, or other stuff. I miss her very much, and I am still willing to R. I suspect it'll be a while till spouse comes to her senses. Still isn't really apologetic about A. Thoughts on what I should do. The contact I get reminds me of spouse's existence and makes me want to make contact.
