Well you know Rabbit, one thing I am remembering about DB principles is that you can't take to heart what they say. I don't know what it is about the "fog" state of mind they are in, but it's like they just interpret what you say to fit their own mindset. I have also found it unbelievably frustrating that it feels like we can't win! My H has confused me with the mixed messages of "don't be so needy" while telling me OW was attractive to him b/c she needed him! I don't think WAS's even know what they want! That is why the DB strategy of GALing and focusing on ourselves is so crucial! If you become the best Rabbit you can be, and you find strength and confidence during this time - you will be ok no matter what he decides.
Either way... whether your radar is working correctly or not, "acting as if" will be good for you. Keep your PMA going! You are a FABULOUS and ATTRACTIVE woman! Now you go girl! :-)
