Thanks for the picnic analogy on 2B's thread (www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads...rue#Post1868263). I'm posting the link so that others who haven't seen this can find it. The picnic analogy creates a very helpful mental image.
Good work on the steps forward!!!! No expectations is a good policy. It is SO hard to find a skilled pro-marriage couples therapist. Does your IC have some good names? Might you also check with the people who sponsor your local Retrovaille weekend for good MC references?