No code, I do agree. I would never have taken my H back as long as he was still in the throws of his MLC(as he continues to be now). He thinks he has done absolutely nothing wrong, doesn't see how hurt his children have been and thinks it was fine to continually bring his GF around instead of rebuilding what he broke with the kids.
I can't change that. I can't MAKE him feel sorry. I can't heal his relationship with the boys and I certainly can't make them want to be with him. The girls don't want to be with them either but he forces them to go. Even bought D10 a cat to "make" her want to be there. And if you are wondering I do tell them that their Dad loves them and it is only fair that he gets time with them.
Now, as for Thanksgiving. I won my choice between a turkey or a ham. I need to put that in the system tomorrow. I have tried both types of turkey and honestly, I like it better when I cook my own after it has soaked in brine overnight. Everyone likes ham so I think that is the way I will go and then just buy a turkey breast to roast as without former in-laws around, no one cares for dark meat.
Thanks for the discussion, now back to our regular kat musings...
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory