I'll say one more thing, Kat, and let this thread get back on track.
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Further, pretty much everyone here was willing to take back a wayward spouse who had an A. That means that they believe a person who has had an A is capable of being a decent, loving person, and parent, when kids are involved. If the WAS are redeemable, then so is the A partner.
That argument doesn't fly. With our WAS we held out the hope that they would repent of their mistakes and come back to the M (in fact, biblically, we are obligated to give our spouses the chance), but without the repentance that is impossible.
The OP, on the other hand, might very well be "redeemable", but the fact that they might persist in the R with the LBS only proves that they themselves haven't repented.
Bottom line: You can forgive people who have not repented of their sins against you, but you can never reconcile with them until they do. Does any of this shed a light on what I am trying to say?
