t sounds like you feel it would be best to plant seeds of resentment into the kids minds in how they act and percieve the OP who helped to break apart their family. Please, tell me if I am misinterpreting.
You are misinterpreting. I would NOT advocate planting seeds of resentment in the children. But even though I can forgive the WAS and their A-partner that does not mean I have to accept an unrepentant -- emphasis on the word "unrepentant" -- person who is trying to reap the benefits of their sins against me and my children. I will take no action against them or their own actions unless those actions run counter to my own convictions.
But by no means am I in any way obligated to grease the skids for the OP's attempts to try to horn in on my children's lives.
And while I have taken the policy of not referring to the OP at all, with my own goal of eventually treating both he and the ex with pure indifference, if my kids ever do ask me one day about this matter, I will tell them the truth and not sugar-coat it.
