I, personally, am not trying to make you angry or sad but rather I hope some of things I write can help you gain control over your emotions and the situation you find yourself in; And hopefully help you to think and begin to know yourself as an individual now instead of concentrating on your wife and her behaviors. As bowing to her threats and demandings and taking a weak position will most likely cause your situation to drag on lengths that will take a toll on your self esteem, confidence, and your ability to turn this situation around quickly and effectively.
Regarding anger. Although it is a common and instinctive initial reaction, if you allow it to control you you will lose your ability to relax, concentrate, slow your reaction time and cause you to react incorrectly in anything you do. During my dilemma, I took up Tae Kwon Do. It provided me not only an outlet for my frustrations but also helped me to understand myself in combat situations and how to maintain control of my body, mind and emotions.
Depending on how dominant and stubborn your wife is you may need an outlet for your emotional energy. Primal Screams, punching bags, kicking people or running till your lungs burn will help keep you out of the looney bin. As my situation progressed, it began to affect my daughter noticeably. We bought guitars and really loud amps. We now have a little secret between us that when either of us if angry or frustrated over the living conditions we'll head out to the garage and start playing Thin Lizzy's Breakout. The other one of usually plugs in for wah wahh wahhhhh. Very Relaxing song to play really loud. Breakout.
"Do you hear what i say, from under my breath?" LOL
