I still struggle with this one in my sitch which involves an A. On the one hand, I see that the WAS needs to experience the sense of loss or you could just be encouraging cake eating. On the other, I could see that it might help to maintain some connection. In my case, one of the changes W was looking for was more intimacy from me so it seems that it might send the wrong message if I refrained. With that said, I have been advised from some of the heavy hitters on this forum that I should stop any intimate contact while A is ongoing.
