If she hasn't specifically mentioned finances then I would ignore unless/until she tells you exactly what she wants to talk about. You told her no chit chat so stick to it.
Hi gucci!
Thanks for sticking it out with me, couldn't have made it through without you. Things are looking good these days, we're off to Rome in a couple weeks. Pearl deserves a nice vacation after last year.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
Well spent a quiet weekend nursing a cold. Spent some time with SIL and neice at the arena. Then back home for more cold med's.
I found that being sick actually brought me down quite a bit and I ended up thinking about WAS way too much last night. So a cold brought out the blues.
Still cannot sleep very well.
Tomorrow spending the day with SIL as I have to take her to her MS treatments.
Will try to make it the day with no R talk.
As for the cold.
Ouch... Its a good one...
As for the down.... Well zig zag its to be expected
P.S. got the leaves raked
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
Hang in there Cutter! I had the same experience when I was sick... seemed to bring out the blues. Still struggling with sleep myself but it's got to get better at some point, right?
I raked leaves today as well, cleaning up the yard is always good for what ails ya'. I hope that cold gets better soon. Maybe have a nice glass of that single malt you mentioned the other night and see if you can get some good sleep tonight. Sleep has become my new quest in life!
Hang in there, those funky days are going to come around from time to time.
Well I found yesterday to be a very difficult day. It was a very long day. Good and bad. Spent the day with my SIL and her daughter (17) at the hospital. Drive down was ok. We were all kind of tired and just listened to music and joked abit. Got to the hospital and took good care of my SIL during the bloodwork and getting her to the treatment room. Neice and I went out for breakfast and talked about her brother and his upcoming first girlfriend. Then back to hang with SIL. So far so good. No R talks or anything. Then neice and I went out for lunch and thats when she said. "I am so glad that you did not cut us out of your life. I was afraid that you were going to do that. What WAS did is so wrong. I just do not understand. I hardly talk to her anymore." Well I just sat there and the bitterness of it all just came up and we ended up talking for about 20 minutes about it all.
And that bitterness just stayed with me for the rest of the day.
On the ride home SIL and I ended up talking R for a bit as well. I stayed rather vague in my answers but I could tell the bitterness was coming out.
Dropped them off and went home and nursed my cold.
And another crappy night of sleep.
Anyways. Today is a better day. Sun is bright. Nice crisp fall day. And a full day of work to complete.
I think those bitterness feelings are not only understandable, but healthy. They HAVE to come out, and as long as you're keeping your venting to a close circle of friends and family, I think you're fine. DO treat every one of those conversations as if it's going to get back to your wife, however, and let people know "I don't want a divorce," and "I love her very much" (assuming those things are true), "but I need to protect myself," etc.
Sorry, I'm not that familiar with your sitch, but I just wanted to offer you some encouragement, since you give others so much of yours!
