Oh, I forgot to tell u guys the funniest comment I have heard from him in a while.
Yesterday, while we were discussing the kid exchange on Friday, he says, well you are supposed to drop them off at (his stepdad's)work at 6. I say, yes, but there's a game Friday night. Aren't you going to just take them after the game like we normally do? Then, he says, all full of attitude and whatever, if you read your divorce decree it doesn't SAY I have to take him to his games. I don't HAVE to. (not the first time he has threatened to screw up kids plans, activities, you have to know my S LIVES for his sports since he was 4 years old)
So, in response, I say, you are right, it doesn't mandate that you be a good, loving father. You can mess up your kids lives even more if you want to. Nobody can MAKE you be a good dad.
He says, Well I don't want to mess them up anymore, that is why I put up with you!
Ummmmmm, yeah, excuse me? HE puts up with ME? LOL and LMAO. I have been nicer to him than 99.9 percent of other human beings in this case would be. omg.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
I know we have said it before. Your h might win the prize for looniest MLCer. He is a piece of work.
You just hang in there. Keep being the wonderful mother that you are. You are a good person, who deserves better. I know one day you will have the happiness you so richly deserve.
I miss you guys too!! Things should be slowing down for me as far as sports goes. We should be down to just basketball in a couple of weeks or so. I might be able to get on more from home!
I, actually,despite ex, am in a happy place. I am moving on with my life, and enjoying my kids and having my own life. The only thing bringing me down right now is dealing with ex.
We had this long drawn out conversation last night. It started out about Friday, then spiraled into the normal drama. He got very nasty and threw out some very nasty threats (not physical harm, but just really vindictive stuff). Then told me that I am a psycho B, who is worse than og, because I am smart????? uh okay.
He's mad cuz he thinks I am dating someone but I won't tell him for sure or who. Hello, why would I? Said that he was RESPECTFUL to me because he had his relationship out in the open and didn't try to hide it...... yeah, two weeks after we separated... that was SOOOOO respectful. I am DISRESPECTFUL because we are divorced, and I won't tell him all about my personal life. SoCo scratches head....
Then as I am telling him I can't talk to him anymore, loses it, cries, begs, and pleads, tells me how much he loves me and says he is doing the other because he can't cope and wants me back.... That's a great way to get me back,right?
Was just broken down sobbing to the point that even after he has been so nasty I just feel horrible listening to it. To hear a grown man so lost and confused and miserable is just heartbreaking. He's totally crazy and lost and just it is SO sad.
I keep asking him if he has started his counseling yet and he says no. I keep telling him he needs to get started.
Again, I can't make him get better, but I would hope if I was a trainwreck like that someone would make sure I got some help. Obviously it can't be me, so I hope someone else steps up, like his mom or someone.
I ask myself why I keep talking to him but it always starts out about normal business stuff.
He also insist on bringing me his couches, b/c mine are in bad shape and says he doesn't have a place to put them anyway.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
S, you know what I say to you is said with love, right? I know that you have to talk to him because you have young children. I get that. I know you care about him and you are a nice person. I get that, too.
What I dont get is why you would want to keep going round and round with this man at this time. He isnt going to get help because he hasnt hit bottom. He hasnt hit bottom in part because he still has you all caught up in his stuff. He wants your attention and he gets it.
I know it is sad to see a grown man such a mess, especially the father of your children and the man you have been with since you were 18.
But I am not sure where this dance that you two are playing to going to get either of you.
The only thing you can change is you and your reactions to him. The rest is up to him.
Yep. I agree with you both. It starts out legit and then I get sucked down the drain. And no, I have no reason to engage with him and nothing to gain. He has nothing to offer me except being good to my kids. That's it. Period.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
