Can I save my marriage?

[TrentC]

That's true. The first and only R talk we had was a week and a half ago and that's exactly what he said. " Why couldn't you be like this before when it mattered? Why change now that we're separated" I didn't really know what to say except that now I'm changing for me and hoping to make my changes everlasting.

Well put.

If you can make the changes stick, then he will have to reconsider what he is doing.