Can I save my marriage?

[TrentC]

If you talk about the R now what comes up? All the things you have done wrong and now you are changing but's it's too little too late. Why couldn't you have done that before when it would have mattered?

So just show the changes, show true giving and filling their love buckets, really listen, validate, take care of yourself, and be consiistent in your changes and growth. You do all of these things for your benefit. "Love your neighbor as yourself."

Eventually R talks will come up but you want them after you are secure in your new and improved self. You will backslide but you want to be higher up the mountain when it happens. R talks will keep you stuck in a hole when you are starting out.

Well put, Coach.