Still in the tunnel with hubby

[kjensen]

Hi Grace,
I was really surprised about him volunteering to help bake cookies, but for me to stand back was a 180 so I went with it.

For the holidays-On Christmas Eve, we all go out for Chinese food (in homage to the movie, The Christmas Story). We often go to my uncles's house on Christmas day but haven't the last 2 years and the girls seem to want to...When the girls were little there was a lot more craft stuff going on..but maybe we'll get back to that. Usually lots of board games, some ice skating..maybe we'll create some new traditions this year.

H is more distant and pulling away. Not sure if its b/c he has therapy this afternoon(which he dreads and hasn't had in 6 weeks), or his trip to NYC for the weekend. I'm trying to just be upbeat and calm..letting him have his space and validating when possible. Not sure what tonight will bring since H is in this kind of weird place right now.

Thanks for checking in!

I had a thought this morning and wonder if anyone has an opinion on it...Do you think that our spouses somehow pick us as partners(perhaps subconsciously) b/c they know that somehow we're more stable or less broken and that will allow them to go into MLC and be removed from their responsibilities, so to speak, b/c we will be there to carry on and take care of the family?

I'm sure there are families where both spouses go off the deep end..but it seems to me that those of us posting on this forum have kept things running while H or W has run off into the MLC tunnel...just wondering...