Kerry, he has been a good dad and a good comitted father and "fiance" for 6 and 10 years. I have no other indications he has cheated on me before. And for all these years I had access to passwords, accounts, phones etc. Which makes me feel stupid I didnt realise the sudden change of habbits meant something was up. I like to believe that this was not the "norm" for him. I really think, he fell for her cause we were so damn tired and fed up with all the deaths and sicknesses and the 2 little kids. EVERYTHING clicked. Including the way I treated him.
stbxh was very respected by all our friends and often used as role model from my GFs to their Hs. Imagine that!!! I havent yet met met a man so involved and so helpful in the house, with no bad habbits (gamble,porn etc) with so little time spent with his friends, so good with money and so loyal to his family (incl parents and sister). What happened seems so...out of character. Remember even the C didnt believe he was capable of cheating with this duty notion he lives his life by.
Which of course, makes this A much much more than a sexual addiction. She must have really won his heart. And that is why, I cant relax, the emotional attachment to her was too great to just die 100%.
So, I dont think it is the Spartan origin, I think it is the fact that he is not a bad person. Just weak. K
