I dont care occsassionally about his guilt. We spoke a bit last night and I said..but I went through so much..and he replied indignantly "What about what I went through!?". I was speechless at that!
When you care about someone, you care about their feelings. And I know most of the time you do try to minimize his guilt. But Michelle is right, he went through his own side of hell, you both did. That experience can bond you together, or put you on opposing sides.
Most of the time, it seems to be bonding - you guys seem better than ever.
But sometimes, you put him into the position opposing you. There is still some lingering resentment in that statement.
I know it isn't easy, but you do need to let that go if you don't want it to poison your future. Just MHO.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
