Keep Your Hands Offa My Mojo

[Kettricken]

I tend to agree with your "chinese food" example, AK. It begs the question, "Do you ever listen to me AT ALL?" which is rarely productive of warm cozy feelings. However, that is still mind-reading, however seemingly justified.

And, along the lines of the widely-accepted definition of insanity, it would seem counterproductive to *continue* to tell such a person, "Whatever you want" when they have consistently proved themselves incapable or unwilling to execute to your standards. Then it's time for, "Would you please bring me chicken phad thai, 3 stars, and some black sticky rice, and a ginger ale, not Sprite, ginger ale. Thanks, babe!"

I do so agree that there's always something to be learned. In SPs case, I find myself quite curious as to how he responded to her diatribes in those circumstances. (Hey SP, don't mind me as I talk about you in the third person; how about it?) I think willingness to go there partly depends on where you are in the process, though. Anecdotal/sample size = 1, but when we were having our problems, there was this definite (oversimplified) progression: First I thought it was all his fault. Then I thought it was all my fault. Now I can surely see faults on both sides. This seems to echo through multiple situations on the board. You see it when you are able. (Doesn't mean you should stop reaching for better understanding, of course.)