Very good points Rob... and yes this made my stomach turn when she said these things. That is the reason I asked for input, because I have been wanting to confront her on the issue because I think it's bulls**t. Both you and puppy gave me some insight on how to handle the situation different from how I would handle it (which would probably be me blowing up).
My story: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1867595#Post1867595