Partner left after 9 yrs - 18months on, reunited !

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and he replied indignantly "What about what I went through!?". I was speechless at that!

True though.

You know he was going through his own personal hell at the same time you were. Granted, yours was directly caused by his but it doesn't make his any less, right?

At least he has admitted to being confused and 'out of his mind'. That is enormous.

Ali, I know this is probably going to sound callous, but IMO you need to stop bringing up the past pain...totally. It's nothing more than rehashing the same old stuff now and that is going to drive him further into depression. If he brings it up, talk about it. Just don't bring any of it up yourself anymore. Time to let it all go....completely.