Kevin, I'm very proud of you for not sending the letter and for changing the day your W wanted you to come over. She knows how you feel about her and so does God. So with the changes that you are saying that you are making and will make it will then show your W that you are a new person. You have helped me out so much with turning to God and that is what you need to do. Leave it in God's hands and do your best to become a better person (H) to your wife. She is the one committing sin right now, not you. On one of the CD's from rejoice ministries and in a book it said that Charlyne didn't pursue Bob at all and that is what you need to do. If your W didn't know how you felt then I could see sending a letter because a lot of prodigals don't know they can come home but your W does know that already.
Just keep on changing for God and for yourself and I believe it will work out. I know how you feel, because everything my H does or says I over analyze we both need to detach for a while and wait for changes and make changes and also wait for God's perfect timing.
