I suppose I’m out there already. I meet men at work, at football and concerts, but none of them grab my attention. I did go out for dinner/concerts with male friends at the beginning of our separation; my H didn’t like it at all so I stopped as I didn’t want to push him further away. That may in hindsight have been a mistake, perhaps I should have been bolder and said that it was none of his business that we’d moved on etc.
Perhaps I just have to be realistic, my H checked out of the M along time before he actually left, he’s unlikely to say anything about reconciliation even if he wants to. Fact is even though I’ve followed all the advice on here and my DB coach about GAL, NC, no R talks, being upbeat, moving on etc to draw him back he’s not coming back. I think I’m OK with that.
It’s a bit sad for all of us involved not just me and my H, but our kids and wider family and friends, it’s a selfish move on his part but then he’d be the first to admit that selfish is what he is.
Next problem is what to do at Christmas. My thoughts are to not invite him although he would be welcome if he chose to ask to come. As for Boxing Day it’s normally at my MIL, I understand from the kids that this year I’m not going to be going, not sure whether that’s MILs idea or my H. Separate presents too I think? Anyone got any thoughts. 
