OK, projecting my own thoughts here, tell me if I am off base.
Do you think you are disappointed b/c in your mind, MC without him doing some kind of IC to figure out his 'stuff' first, will not solve the problem?
I know that we did the whole MC thing (granted h was still having affair and lying it was over so that didn't work!), then when he ended the A for real we did Retrouvaille. But in the end he never processed the stuff that was just his to deal with, so things never got better...
I like that it is a Christian MC though. They tend to be pro-marriage...
WCW, I have given it some thought and I am disappointed, but not because he made the call. I am disappointed that I can not trust this. I still (and always have) want my marriage to be healed. If he sets up an appointment I will go and I will jump in with both feet and do whatever needs to be done from my end. But I can't do his part too. He has to do it.
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
Do I understand that your H made the call, but no appt has been made yet? I hope he will do the work needed! We did a little counseling, but at the time my H wasn't willing to stop contact with ow. I talk to my exH and he dosen't sound happy. Obviously his unhappiness wasn't just related to ME! He should have had some IC, too (I think he maybe had 2 individual sessions, but said it wasn't helping).
GOOD, GOOD LUCK! I think about you all the time, but I still haven't set up computer at home so I am not here much. I am actually going house hunting right now. I need to decide to buy a house or stay where I am.....my lease is up soon.
oh Mat... I am so happy to hear something about you! Of course your H isn't really happy. Good luck with the house hunting. I think of you often too. How is your D doing?
Yes, my H made the call... and he actually did set up an appointment but now it has to be rescheduled due to now fault of anyone involved. Duty calls, ya know.
This is not happening in my time frame, but I have to let that go and be willing to see this out I guess. Patience.... ugh not my strong suit.
Does anyone here watch Mad Men?
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
Figured I should not let today go by without mentioning that one year ago I got the lastest bomb. I have been dealing with this bull for an entire year (actually much longer, but a full year for this latest mess). I have made several marks in the sand and each on of them have been crossed and still I allow myself to be stuck.
Some days I think I am doing so well and others (like today) I feel like I have made no progress at all.
My C keeps telling me I do not have to rush I will know when I know and can not make a move until I am ready, but each time makes me feel worse about myself.
Anyway I know I have no one but myself to blame for the sad state of my emotions today, like I said I just figured I should mark the date.
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
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