"I've been struggling with a lot of anger and resentment today, and unfortunately it fueled a blow up on the phone this afternoon including the following text from her: "When I look at you I despise you and can't stand you anymore...I don't even know who you are anymore. A stranger.""

I'd skipped this birthday. To much hostility that hallmark cant fix.

why not a copy of the dvd, 'Unforgiven' with Clint Eastwood, thats a classic that everyone should have in their collection.