Once again Frank YOU have to be the one to take the high road and yet stand as a man and father for what is right and proper.
You've done it over and over throughout this process. You've learned what it means to take responsibility for what is yours and to refuse to accept what is not.
Your STBX's words and actions are stunning, hurtful, and inexplicable given how your situation has unfolded. But don't allow the shock value of the forces she is attempting to rally against you to cause you to become something you are not.
You are a committed and loving father to two amazing children. You are a skilled and compassionate physician who makes a difference in the lives of your patients. You are a trusted and valued friend who time and time again has come to the aid of those who needed you.
You do not have to become "like her" to take the reigns in this divorce matter. You don't have to become an ass or a hateful person to stand up and say, "I love my children and insist that I continue to have an active and vital role in their lives on a regular basis."
Lead the way Frank. And make sure your lawyer is following YOUR wishes to a T. Stop responding, and have your lawyer stop responding to your STBX's legal nonsense except where absolutely necessary. Accept that this will go to trial and take this time to prepare thoroughly with your lawyer so that when that day comes, YOU are the calm, collected, reasonable, rational spouse in that room.
Stop fearing the worst, start preparing for the new life to come.
One thing that I have taken from my experience is that we spend FAR too much time and effort responding to and worrying about the outrageous, when rarely does the outrageous come to pass.
Still here. And sorry again that we continually miss each other on the phone. If you can find a way to get your number to me, I would be glad to call you sometime. Perhaps a text or a message on fb.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
