No Kerry, I didnt misunderstand OT. And I agree with what was said. It would be tragic for my kids IF I would let my "non-acceptance" interfere with their lives. But to say now that I would be ok with them having this woman as their stepmom, would be a HUGE lie. And I dont lie. Maybe I am not such a great person. And basically, I think people learn to outgrow situations by facing them, they adjust. Right now though, I cant stand the thought of her being a part oftheir lives, even if it was just for the weekends.
Basically, if me and H divorce, I would want any woman that he will be involved with, to care about my kids. And I would encourage them to accept her and love her. Just like I have been protecting them from their dad's poor actions only to protect their R with him although I was deeply hurt and totally against, but HER, is a whole different ball game. Maybe it is because I read so many things she wrote about my kids that were...unacceptable, like "why are you still cosnidering going back, your kids are fine, they have accepted the divorce, you time with them is less but better" while I was taking them to therapy and was dealing with their meltdowns and hurt and pain and while they kept crying themselves to sleep missing their dad. (Kerry you know how hard it has been on them) Excuse me for being "small". K
