Ok...need quick advice tonite. Just to recap: My WAW spent $40 on my Bday last week (a book & some DVDs). Gifts were "from the kids!" But then she got mad when I didn't thank her personally within a few hours.
Tonite, when I dropped the kids off, my WAW disappeared to get our D2 to sleep. So I left the small gift bag I'd prepared with Hallmark cards from each of the kids. (I signed for them in crayon). Plus I mirrored her expenditure of gifts -- $20 giftcard for a restaurant she likes, and $25 giftcard for a spa/manicure. I made it clear they were all "from the kids."
I have to be out of town this weekend for a convention many hours away, so I'm missing the WAW's Bday. I suggested she take our D4 to Disneyland, since the WAW will enjoy free admission.
Here's her two responses:
Txt#1: "Had a question for you but you ran off like always...are you going to pay for (D4's) ticket to disneyland? Just curious. Please don't get me a gift." Evidently, she hadn't seen the gift bag yet.
Txt#2: "So that's a no to (D's) ticket? It was your idea"
I've been struggling with a lot of anger and resentment today, and unfortunately it fueled a blow up on the phone this afternoon including the following text from her: "When I look at you I despise you and can't stand you anymore...I don't even know who you are anymore. A stranger."
Now that I've given her nice birthday presents from the kids, I feel like she's demanding more (Disneyland) and insisting I deliver PRONTO!! Considering her SA destroyed our family and cost us our home, I feel I'm D'ing the most selfish brat on the planet.
