For now, I am in sort of a holding pattern circling the Affairport. I confronted two weeks ago and made it clear that what she was doing was unacceptable and that she needed to make a choice. Still nothing from her since except that she seems to have decided to stay.........for now. I am trying to be friendly and upbeat so that she can be comfortable with me and not feel like I am going to take the first opportunity to rub her nose in the A if she were to try to open up about it.
I know that at some point, sooner than later I assume, I am going to have to establish some additional boundaries about the A and with the consequences that I neglected to put in place at the last confrontation. Just not sure about the timing of this next phase. I guess at the end of the day, I am willing to allow some time for the past confrontation to sink in a bit and give her some time to come to grips with what it all means but I can't live in this limbo where we are not even acknowledging what has happened.
I have decided that I will try to become more mysterious and see where that leads. I know that not being mopey and pathetic is working and that the fact that I am showing signs of moving on with my life no matter what is also working so I will keep this going. I can tell she is nowhere near R at this point so I am trying to not get my hopes up and not have any expectations at this point.
