Going straight forward...antlers 5th thread.

[antlers]

If you feel better when you're detatched...then keep detatching.

Just because you've always done that doesn't mean that you have to keep on doing it.

I think that we, as LBS's in particular, have developed a strong pattern of reactive behavior. It's understandable, given the circumstances...and we have every right to feel the way we do. But I think we have a more compelling right to heal our wounds. We really must choose between negative emotions on the one hand...and healing on the other. It's not possible to feel lovable or loving while you feel all these negative emotions...and these negative emotions also prevent healing.