WAW + MLC + Male BFF + "Just Friends" = Fed Up

[Heartbroken20]

Hey DQ - Understood and your points are well taken.

What I meant by who-knows-what is that I have no idea what lies she will tell her attorney or when all parties are present. I know they won't care a bit about her lying about her EA (which is what I think you thought I was saying) but she has spun such a complicated web that I think when there are things that are "judgement calls" rather than legal clarities, (like who gets which family pet, or exactly how much personal financial support she deserves, for instance) I'm likely to get just a tad more support if they realize she isn't prone to being forthright.

I'm pretty sure when they hear both stories, they will understand pretty well what the situation is and if there is any room to slightly "lean" one way or the other (and there almost always is, the law doesn't spell out clear rulings on each and every little detail of a marriage) they might lean slightly my way, or at least NOT lean slightly her way.

One side note. One reason she wants Collaborative Law is that it does not really require legal "grounds" for divorce. In the view of our northeastern state, being generally unhappy with your spouse is not really considered grounds for divorce. So because she can't file for a good reason (although she has agreed I could easily file on grounds against her) she wants CL. She has had to trump up charges against me thus far to justify her decision in her own mind and I'm not sure what other charges she will trump up when she meets with her attorney.

Having worked for a lawyer, you know that there is considerable expense to an innocent party simply defending against false charges. Even when vindicated, many times the wronged party is not fully reimbursed for their expenditures so her upcoming claims/accusations do concern me.

I do appreciate your input so please tell me if I am off-base or just borrowing trouble.