My ex goes in spurts with the kids. At times the kids are just obstacles to him at other times he is very clingy with them. My ex does look mentally ill to me, I hate to admit that but it is the truth.
I am beginning more and more to think my ex will be one of those who does not ever wake up.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
ML, I am happy for the fact that your X has taken some action w/your S.
The saying is "What you focus on expands." Focus on the fact that he is involved with your S and try to ignore the shortcomings that he has in parenting, is all I can say.
I am relieved that STBXH has shown more interest in D; she was so starved for his attention. She needs more of it, and she will never get what she would have had if we were together, but it is better and I try to focus on that.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
oh dear me, crap as hit the fan again, when will this saga end. old auntie phoned last night to say they have had a fall out, she needed tablets and ex or wifey normally pick them up for her and drop them off, auntie is housebound, they also do her shopping for her, auntie hadnt heard all day so phoned to see if there was something wrong, ex just said he had been too busy all day to pick the phone up and let her know they wouldnt be getting her tablets, so she told him not to bother. half hour later wifeys mother is on phone to auntie telling her wot a stupid old woman she is, and this escalated to an argument where auntie told her a few home truths, yesterday morning ex and wifey were seen outside aunties and pushed something through her letter box, turned out it was her shopping list returned, her prescription for her tablets returned and her payment card that enables them to withdraw her pension for her returned, no phone call or anything else to say why. geez how can they do this to an old lady of 84 years, also no contact to son or I regards son's health. So now basically wifey has gotten ex to fall out with the only remaining relative in his life that cared and loved him throughout his life, she is distraught. Just hope it doesnt kick anything off towards myself or spoil things for ex and son. It sure does take some understanding does all this crappy mlc. what next we are four years down the line and still putting up with all the crap
I am sorry he again is an idiot. They seem to push away everyone - so sad...
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
one week later as far as ex and wifey know auntie is now without tablets and shopping, not a phone call or visit to see if she has them, how sad and disgusting this is especially as she is 84 years old, disabled and housebound. Luckily she as had the sense to get some friends involved in helping her out. He is her only blood relative and so knows she depends on him. oh dear me, what could possibly happen next
That is so sad, Mandy. Your son, though, is also a blood relative. I am glad she has friends, and that you keep in touch too.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
thankyou for your replies, forward you could be right, he is strangely quiet again towards son and myself, he seemed to be doing ok before this ding dong with auntie, now it seems like he as withdrawn from us again, but life goes on nothing more I can do, he can contact us or not, whatever
